Egoality is “Creating your own reality, usually a false one, because of your ego”
Ego is a sense of self-esteem or sense of self-importance. But there are people out there with the unfortunate combination of low self-esteem and a big ego. That combination is a deadly one. Self-esteem is the opinion of yourself and how you feel. When you have low self-esteem, things start to go haywire in your mind from lack of positive feelings. That leads to something I call the monkey mind. People who feel bad about themselves usually are stuck in a rut and unfortunately comfortable with it, so they drift through life living “comfortably” because they don’t know any other way.
Combine that with a big ego and false sense of confidence. You have a cocktail of trouble. Why? Because – People believe what they want to believe, whether it’s in the realm of reality or not. That’s a fact. I am sure we are all guilty of it at times, but there is a level to it, a balance. There is a difference between having an imagination and grounding yourself in the process. To the other end of the spectrum, going so extreme you start to believe what is not reality, to be reality, all the time. It ends up being a core belief that is not true in any way. That’s letting your ego get in the way of what’s really going on. Turning a blind eye to the truth. That is Egoality– Creating your own reality, which is a false reality based on beliefs because of low self-esteem and over the top ego.
Whatever the case may be it’s a very unbalanced life to live. Whether someone feels they are happy or not, it’s still self-destructive to themselves and others around them.
Why Are People Like That?
Adolescence has a lot to do with it. They may have been praised by their parents and peers growing up. Being told they can never do wrong. Or, on the opposite end, they may be a very depressed person putting on a facade about themselves, hiding behind an alter ego that they actually started to believe to be true. Why does that happen? Because – Your thoughts create your own reality. Searching for external sources of self-gratification to temporarily boost ones self-esteem. Whatever the case may be it’s a very unbalanced life to live. Whether someone feels they are happy or not, it’s still self-destructive to themselves and others around them.
How To Break Free
Breaking free from your ego is not an easy thing to manage. Keep in mind, your feelings at times may feel like they are over taking your thoughts. Luckily for you, being able to control your thoughts lets you control your feelings. Self-Control is all you really require. You need to be aware of what’s going on. Not just around you, but in your mind as well. This is where complete honesty with one’s self comes in. I’m not saying it’s easy. I’m not saying it’s going to happen over night, but I am saying it’s worth it.
Ah, the tough stuff. But only if you let be. Taking your ego, throwing it out the door then slowly letting it back in. In metaphysics, ego is a conscious thinking subject. In psychology, ego is part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious, and is responsible for reality and a sense of personal identity. To become aware, you need to be consciously aware of what’s going on. You need to fully understand what’s going on. A half-assed attempt is not the answer. You will be confused at first, you will cringe when you start to dig deep and truly understand who you are. It’s normal, it’s okay. That’s just your ego “taking a hold of you”.
Your assumptions also need to stop, because every time you assume something you are creating an assumption of what you think is to be correct. And – The more you assume something the more you are going to believe it to be true.
Start asking other people’s opinions instead, have an intelligent discussion, hear others out. Then and only then you can come to an intelligent assumption based off your full awareness of the situation. Not an ego based decision where you are the only one thinking of an answer. Also,by having a lack of self-awareness, you are only hurting yourself by not knowing who you truly are.
My suggestion to you is this, create a life of self-awareness, a life of a healthy balance between self-esteem and ego.
A Balanced Return
The most important thing you can give to yourself is value. By giving value, you are also getting something in return. But it’s a healthy return. You may give with selfish intent only because you want something in return, or you can give with selfless intent knowing you are getting something in return but not caring whether you do or don’t. If you decide to give to others, you are making others feel good about themselves and in return you are doing a good act.
The reward for doing that good act is making you feel good, which boosts your self-esteem.. It’s not an ego based thing, it’s purely because you know on the inside you want to do something positive. You will feel liberated, stress will start to melt away and most importantly your ego will balance itself out as time goes on. You are free from outcome dependency.
There are many doors to be opened in your life. By having a big ego you are limiting the amount of doors and opportunities that can lead to bigger and better things. My suggestion to you is this, create a life of self-awareness, a life of a healthy balance between self-esteem and ego. Only then you will start to see things for what they truly are.